How to Really Connect with Teens (and Kids) During the Holiday Break

This Fall, we welcomed back teens in-person to our new group room for the Circle Up Teen Group program. In the past several weeks, it’s been such a pleasure to watch the teens share with each other, express their honest feelings, give each other feedback and support, and make connections in ways that many have not been able to in a long time. Connections formed like this throughout our lives are invaluable, and we know kids and teens need positive connections to really thrive.

The holiday season and upcoming school break provide an opportunity for families to spend time reconnecting. Below are some ideas for how to reconnect as a family, and strengthen existing connections this holiday season.

How to Get Your Kids Talking:

  • Create quiet one-on-one time together. Family time is so important, but so is one-on-one time with each parent. Even just 10 minutes sitting on the edge of the bed at night can be a special time for sharing openly and building trust. Many parents find that their teens seem to open up best during the later hours of the day.
  • Listen more than you talk. Resist the urge to jump to problem solving.
  • Offer encouragement and connection. Say things like, “That sounds hard,” “I’m really glad you told me that. Do you want my advice?” “I’m here for you and we’ll get through this.”
  • Play their games. Let your inner child come out and play the games that they love. They’ll love you for it. And hopefully you’ll have fun too!

Tips for Spending Meaningful Time Together:

From all of us at Well Being Therapy Center, we wish you a very joyous holiday season!

Here’s to Your Well Being,

Katie Worden, LCSW
Licensed Therapist